Tell your partner you want a pause and move away from the loudest part of the room when you can. Describe the interaction and how you felt about it. Give them time to answer. You can decide to leave or take a break while keeping a longer conversation for later.
Return to the boundaries and departure arrangements you discussed before attending. Take a request to stop seriously. Ask what each person needs now, whether that is space, a conversation or a way home. Keep the immediate decision small enough that you can make it clearly in the setting you are in.
When you have more time, discuss what felt uncomfortable and which expectations need clarification. You may choose a different event or decide to stop exploring that format. If a recurring issue is difficult to discuss together, consider support from a qualified relationship professional. Choose the next step when both of you have had room to think.
